When reading articles or books on relationships, women tend to come out smelling of roses. Is that because we are better at being lovers? Or is it because more of these types of books are written by women?
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​Men and women make mistakes in relationships. We are human beings and that means that we often do not get everything completely right. We may not mean to hurt people but either from lack of thought or consideration we do.

When you are part of a couple, you need to have a little patience with your man. He is not mind reader. He cannot be expected to know what to do or say if you don’t give him a few hints. He has his own issues and may be preoccupied with something important. It does not mean that he doesn’t love you anymore or find you less attractive.

On the other hand if your man lies, cheats or fails to keep his word, this is a problem. This shows a lack of respect for you as a person and for your relationship. You need to make sure that he knows that this is not acceptable behavior and you will not tolerate it.

Women can often be insecure and lack confidence. So do men. These issues while affecting the individual also affect the couple. It is not your man’s role to make you have more confidence. Sure he should believe in you and show you how he feels but at the end of the day, you and only you can build up your self-worth.

Try surprising your man – buy him a gift when it is not a special occasion. Cook him a meal because you want to not for any other reason. Spontaneous gestures of affection go a long way to building a harmonious household.

​For the men out there, did you know that if you do more housework you generally get more sex? This is the result of a recent study. Why not try the theory and see if it proves true. Even if it doesn’t get you the desired outcome, it is sure to earn you some extra brownie points.

Strengthen your relationship by having plenty of intimate contact. It releases a bonding hormone called oxytocin helping you to stay together and weather the storms that all couples face.

Do not let stereotypes ruin your relationship. Your man may hate shopping and you may remember every birthday or special occasion. Just because the books say men are useless at remembering dates and women love to burn holes in credit cards does not mean it applies to you and your man.

Remember all the reasons why you got together in the first place. Your smile, his ability to make you laugh. Remembering the fun times and the initial spark will help you to deepen the existing bonds between you. Shared memories, mutual trust and respect and having fun together are all ingredients of a great relationship. Women will agree with that, I’m sure of it!

​Leave a comment and let me know what you think with me.

Best of luck in love and life.

Pearly