“You are a mystery to me, yet so familiar. Like a song, I’ve never heard before, and a tune I’ve known my entire life”
Do you know why your man chose you?
I’m sure you do! It’s because he feels a deeper connection and a stronger attraction to you than he feels for anyone else. There is spark! If a man is attracted to you and you show him you’re interested, it won’t take long for him to approach you. Finding someone that you really like doesn’t happen every day, so be grateful and appreciate every moment you have with him. If you have any obstacles that you need to overcome in your relationship (which is normal for every couple, so don’t ever think that you’re alone!), you both need to learn to resolve the issues in a mature way.
“Everything is about energy. The way you feel around certain people will tell you if this connection needs to be stopped or not”
Never use the words ‘let’s break up’ or ‘let’s get divorce’ when you’re in a heated argument. Always deal with the issue in a calm way. By dealing with your issues and challenges in a calm and mature way, you will build a long lasting relationship. Your man will feel more and more attracted to you each day, unless you have been in a passionless relationship for a very long time and he has already fallen out of love with you. If this is the case, you must make the choice as to whether you want to re-ignite the flamer or move on with your life. Only you and your man can answer this question. If you do both want to find a way back to love and romance then believing that you can do it will go a long way to making it possible!
It may not feel easy at first, but by making a few small changes you will find that you are taking steps to get out of the difficulties that you find yourselves in. Taking a few deep breaths – in with love and out with pain – instead of reacting in a negative way can help to de-escalate situations and give both of you the space that you need to be able to hear and acknowledge each other. After all, this is really what everybody wants in a relationship; to be heard and to be acknowledged. You do not always have to see eye to eye, but you do always need to give each other the respect to listen to one another’s point of view, without feeling that the entire relationship is in jeopardy. The only possible outcome of continual threats and fights is that you will grow further and further apart. Focus on the love and on the positives in your relationship, and give your partner the space to express himself, without making him feel the world is going to come to an end. It will benefit both of you, in the long run.
Staying connected
Have you grown apart from your partner? Do you find it difficult to stay calm when you have disagreements and difficulties? Can you remember back to the time when you were first in love? Perhaps you’ve never lost that connection?